This post is real, so grab your favorite drink and spend some time with me. As I tuck my babies in for bed and we say our prayers I leave their rooms exhausted but know I need to tackle that mom life, and work on my business. There are parts of me that want to keep pushing. I have deadlines to meet and emails to reply to, yet my body is tired and I simply want to go to bed. Tomorrow is a new day and my three kiddos are waiting for me give give give. From changing diapers to cleaning up lunch messes, mom life never stops. I was inspired to write this post by my own reality. As much as I love being a mom, it's hard hard work! It's the most rewarding and beautiful job; but some days I want to stay in my room and eat chocolate all day, drinking my favorite pinot grigio.
Y'all the reality is our kids grow up fast! My oldest son Martin will be 9 years young in a few months. Baby Mason is more of a high energy toddler, that's always on the go. Mila is the most beautiful little girl and is going to be 7! Watching Mila create her own personal style is so precious. Kinda a mini me and is the best shopping date, ever! I can't believe how fast my kids are growing up and I want to enjoy this season.
These tired days will pass, and I don't want to miss out on anything. My purpose right now is being a mother. I have to continue to stay grounded and remain true to me. I don't want to look back at my life and live in regret because I was too busy working or cleaning my home. Don't get me wrong I love to work! Being a wardrobe stylist and fashion/lifestyle blogger is my passion. I'm incredibly grateful I have the opportunity to express my creativity while getting paid. I don't ever want to take that for granted. My point is, I need to remember that this mothering all the time stage will pass. I want to enjoy this season, today and be PRESENT! My kids are going to one day become adults and move on with their own lives...
This week is spring break in our home. I made a decision to be present with them. My husband is away for work for the week in Mexico city, so it's just me. Usually I am able to work when my kids are in school. And some nights when my husband is home watching the kiddos. Side note ladies. I have no idea how single mama's do it! It's exhausting trying to take care of the kids and do everything else. The to do list is not getting smaller and I feel like I'm pulled in 100 different directions! Back to my point, this week is my time to be solely with my kids and only work when my kids are sleeping. I know it's different for everyone but it's important for me to create lasting memories with them. Business can wait because my kids need me, and all of me. The kids go back to school next week and we will get back to our routine. Which brings me to my main point, our mothering is 24/7. We don't get a day off! Spring break for us means how do we create a fun entertaining week for our kids, and keep everyone happy and taken care of. Don't get me wrong, I am not complaining but that's just the reality.
So mama if today you are feeling tired, exhausted and simply want to give up I want to encourage you. You are enough. Your babies are crazy about you. Don't let guilt, envy or tiredness steal your joy. Those babies need all of you. The older I get the less I care of what others think of me, and how I parent my children. No one walks in your shoes. If you are happy and your kids are taken care of, that's all that matters. It doesn't matter how long you breastfeed or if you breastfeed at all. Your world is different then mine, and the way you raise your kids will be different too. No matter our differences we are all doing our best! The truth is, we would do anything for our little people. So let's rally and encourage one another; saying yes to more play-dates that are filled with love and support.
You are enough. I tell myself that all the time. Right now as I am writing this blog post, tired as hell but my heart is filled with so much joy. I know I loved my babies the best way I know how. Being present, not perfect. We had too many CFA's dinners the last week but I could care less. I have laundry to fold and bathrooms to clean, but that could wait. I wanted to write this post, maybe I can encourage one tired mama. You are enough not because of your clean and perfect house, but because you love sacrificially. Always giving. You are enough not because of what the world defines successful moms. You are simply enough because your babies think you're the best. The perfect mom for them. God blessed you with these gifts to honor Him. So say yes to messes and less perfection. Say yes to more bed-time stories filled with juicy kisses and less screen time. And also say yes to alone time without the babies. When it's time to unwind and do something for you and what you love.
None of us are perfect, put parts of us are pretty awesome. Our kids think we are super-heroes! Live in the moment. Laugh more with your babies. Don't compare yourself to the Pinterest perfect homes and perfect lives. You only see the best moments of my life on my Instagram feed. I struggle to balance it all everyday. My husband sees how much I beat myself up after I yelled at my kids because I feel stressed out! All the dirty diapers and toddler meltdowns are more of my everyday life. I live in workout clothes 50% of my life. I share more of my reality on Instagram stories so y'all can see that my life is far from perfect. A big part of my life is our foster to adopt journey. Let me tell you, it's hard and messy to adopt from foster care. I don't share our sons story because parts of his story are for him to share, and I want to respect his privacy. So these are just a few things that are going on in my real and beautiful messy life. Being a mom is enough, we are raising the next generation!
Being a mom is about the everyday moments that only your family sees. You put your children's needs and wants always before your own. You are your kids biggest fan and coach. You will bake your kids favorite treat and surprise them in the morning. You will sit with your kids and tell them to always be themselves. You will do the hard parenting because you want your children to be their best version. Also know they will grow up and be an adult one day.
So mama's you are enough. Believe it with all your heart. Live in that truth! Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Don't buy that lie! Don't let yourself tell you otherwise. Because you are a mom and that is enough! Now matter what season of motherhood you are in right now just be present! Take time for yourself. Surround yourself with cheerleaders and people that love you for you.
YOU ARE. LOVED.